We understand that physical wounds take time to he We understand that physical wounds take time to heal, but we tend to not see that’s also the case with emotional ones. 

You can still feel tender in an area even as you’re recovering and getting better at handling similar situations.

As a matter of fact, actually FEELING the hurt can be a significant part of the healing, because it means you’re acknowledging it and not *suppressing* it or *numbing* it.

And you’re probably building or rebuilding a new skill. Ask any person who has had to go thru physical therapy and let them tell you what a b!tch it was — but if they didn’t go thru that part of the recovery, they’d never operate in a healthy way again.

So if you have an emotional reaction to something when you thought you were over it, don’t beat yourself up. It doesn’t mean no progress has been made or that you’re starting over… just like a large, sensitive bruise doesn’t mean you that you never had surgery.

You might even have a *scar* there and that’s okay, too. There are a billion stages to healing ♥️ 

#selflovejourney❤️ #selflovetips #selfloveclub #selfhealing #selfhealingjourney
This kid is remembering, not learning… past life This kid is remembering, not learning… past life sh!t 

#reincarnation #souls #pastlives #pastlife #spiritualreels
I was well aware of my anxiety for a long time, bu I was well aware of my anxiety for a long time, but because I had *high-functioning* depression I didn’t have the “regular” symptoms I associated with the condition — so I didn’t even know I had it. Even when a therapist pointed it out to me, I scoffed.

THEN when I finally acknowledged that’s what was going on, I became a little too attached to the label. It became a sort of excuse to not deal with things.

The truth was that I didn’t want help. Or rather, I *did* want to feel better but it just felt too overwhelming and exhausting to try, to put the effort into it. I didn’t want to do the work because I didn’t have the ENERGY... and since I believe in reincarnation and the afterlife, I knew my soul would be fine (whereas I used to be afraid of d(e)ath) I just wanted to give up on this life. 

I tell you all this because it’s important to know that just because you’ve found yourself on a spiritual path doesn’t mean you’re going to magically be cured of your struggles. It means you have the tools to heal and progress — but tools are useless without a person to operate them.

The problem is you may not have the energy to swing a hammer or even raise a paintbrush. That’s okay. Start smaller, even if it’s something like scrolling Pinterest for interior decorating ideas.

This analogy may be getting a little out of control. What I’m getting at is that even when you don’t feel like applying any of this shit, keep surrounding yourself with good vibes. Read the books, watch the uplifting videos… surround yourself with people and content that spark something in your soul. Don’t give up, even if you need to pause and rest. The inspiration will come. 

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Here are what expert Carol Bowman has dubbed The F Here are what expert Carol Bowman has dubbed The Four Signs in determining whether your kid is remembering a past life or is just making shit up for fun. It should be noted that a child doesn’t have to exhibit ALL 4 signs for the memories to be valid. It could be any combination…

1. Matter-of-fact tone — It’s not just *what* the child is saying. It’s *how* they say it. It’s not something silly that’s just made up on the spot. It’s factual to them. It is said with the same confidence as telling you what their teacher’s name is or that they’re holding a blue cup of chocolate milk. Oftentimes, the kid’s tone and voice will change a bit - as though they are suddenly much older than their actual years. Like the child who said he was once “betrothed.” Kinda creepy, right?

2. Consistency over time — Think about all those criminal shows that teach us how to catch a person who is lying.  For one thing, when a person tells a lie (or a kid is just making up a story) it’s harder to keep the story straight if they have to tell it more than once. With untruths, you are *creating* something, not *remembering* it. So, yeah, if your kids is repeatedly telling you the same story of something that happened in his “old life” it’s probably a real memory. (This doesn’t mean he won’t possibly ADD to the story if he remembers more later.) 

3. Knowledge beyond experience - The internet is full of videos showcasing child prodigies. While every child who recalls a past life won’t be a 2yo concert pianist, it’s not uncommon for a kid to have shocking knowledge or a skill he didn’t learn from his family. And plenty of these cases existed long before iPads and YouTube.

Corresponding behavior and traits — This one kinda overlaps with the last sign, but it also includes things like phobias, strange food preferences, and mannerisms, etc. This may also show up as physical characteristics like a birthmark that corresponds with a fatal wound in the last life or as a birth defect ((like my son who was literally born with his intestines out of his body and had to be rushed into surgery)). Dr. Ian Stevenson did EXTENSIVE research on this particular category.
#reincarnation #pastlives
If you find yourself doing this a lot, here’s yo If you find yourself doing this a lot, here’s your reminder that your needs and wants are just as important as anyone else’s. Slow down, take a moment, do something wild and crazy and selfish like drink your coffee while it’s still hot 😂

#selfcarefirst #selflovetips #souls #souljourney #anxietyproblems
Pause for a moment. You can tell when you’re bei Pause for a moment. You can tell when you’re being pushed by fear and when you’re being inspired by joy.

If you’re panicking that a project won’t turn out perfectly, if you struggle to hear even minor criticism, if you have a meltdown the moment things don’t go as planned… That means more concerned with the outcome than the process. 

And THAT is a sign that you’ve been conditioned to believe you have to *earn* love…that your worth is determined by your accomplishments.

My darling, sweet soul. That is not true.

You don’t have to *do* anything. Nothing. Nada. Zilch.

So if you *do* decide to pursue something, let it be inspired by genuine interest and bliss. It’s hard for us action-based humans to grasp this, but that is the whole point of being here. 

#selfloveclub #recoveringperfectionist #recoveringpeoplepleaser #souls #souljourney #spiritualjourney
Bruh. Being a human is scary sometimes. It’ can Bruh. Being a human is scary sometimes. It’ can be hard not knowing what comes next.
Watching an episode of Modern Family or The Office for the hundredth time is actually a pretty healthy way to deal with those anxious moments.

Meditation has been a  fantastic resource for me (and so is drinking water and getting in a good workout blah blah) but it won’t help you if it’s something you dread, something that feels boring, something that  feels like an obligation… 

BUT did you know that watching a funny show or a comforting movie is its own form of trance and can have similar benefits? You’re allowed to decompress without feeling guilty about it. It doesn’t make you less spiritual to watch Golden Girls. 
It’s actually a great way to raise your vibration ✨ 

#souljourney #spiritualreels #raiseyourvibration #selflovetips #anxietyproblems #anxietytips
This, of course, is not a comprehensive list. It’s not even a full list of all the books on the subject that I or have read. The point being there is *so* much valid material out there on reincarnation, past lives, souls, the afterlife, etc.

You can see a good list of books I recommend on my website (l i n k in b i o) or message/comment if you want to send you the l!nk. 

Feeling overwhelmed? Here are a few of my personal favorites to start with:

Life Before Life by Jim B Tucker, MD

Old Souls by Tom Shroder

Children Who Remember Previous Lives by Dr. Ian Stevenson

Between Death and Life by Dolores Cannon

The Children that Time Forgot by Peter & Mary Harrison 

#reincarnation #souls #souljourney #pastlives #spiritualreels
The real question is does the plant *like* to be t The real question is does the plant *like* to be touched..? Does it feel like affection… or like being tickled… or is this poor plant cringing… Is it recoiling from me?? I need answers 😅😅
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Jealous and Insecure? Here’s the Real Reason You Feel That Way

This realization is how I healed Myself From feeling extremely jealous and insecure.

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You’re either going to laugh or judge me when you learn about how ridiculously jealous and insecure I used to be. Maybe you’ll relate but I dunno… I’ve had some pretty extreme emotions in my day.

It’s like there were two different people inside of me. One of them always saw and appreciated the beauty of others. That person happily supported other women in doing whatever brought them joy. 

And the other person inside of me was a real bitch who got annoyed when another woman posted a provocative photo online or undressed on camera. That person wanted to stab my husband’s eyes out if he so much as blinked at another woman. 

Thankfully that crazy bitch rarely surfaces anymore, but I wanted to tell you about her. It’s important that you know I understand how you feel if you’re dealing with rage or jealousy and insecurity. 

And more importantly than that, if I can overcome those intense feelings of being jealous and insecure, so can you!

TRIGGER WARNING

I aim to always be honest and authentic when writing about my experiences. That said, my style is not for everyone. My delivery can be a little raw and uncomfortable for some readers. This article in particular mentions self-harm, which may be triggering for some. 

Blaming my partner for my jealousy and insecurity was unfair.

I used to resent men for being visual creatures. I would get angry at whatever man I was dating (or married to) if he was so much in the room with a sexy woman. 

True story, I once had a complete meltdown and accused my ex-husband of choosing a movie solely because there was a topless scene in it. A movie neither one of us had ever seen before, might I add. So unless he looked it up online in advance like a horny teenager or something, I’m not sure how he would’ve known in advance.

Ah yes, on that note, I went through a whole phase where I did google movies in advance. I wanted to know if there was any nudity. If so, then it was fine for me to watch it on my own, as long as my husband wasn’t around.

I was a lot of fun back then. I bet you wish you were married to me.

It makes me laugh now because I was so young and jealous and insecure and over-the-top. But at the time, I know I was also experiencing a lot of pain. So much so that I started regularly c—tting myself with a utility kn—fe. It was easier to distract myself with physical pain than to deal with my inner turmoil.

Ever had your kids ask you about your self-inflicted scars? That’ll fuck you up, if you weren’t damaged already. 

Not to mention it must have been a nightmare for all of my love interests.

But what about infidelity?

There were times when it felt easy to blame my ex for my insecurity. I could justify some of his actions as being the reason I had trust issues, but the truth is that I'm no longer willing to give him or anyone else that kind of power.

I get it. Once you've been cheated on, it's natural to look at that person and say you made me this way. But ideally, even though infidelity could still hurt you, you would recognize it only as an error made by the other person and not see it as a reflection of who you are. 

Unfortunately, infidelity often triggers those negative feelings like insecurity and jealousy that already exist within us. It's like a doctor cutting you open for a procedure wouldn't give you a tumor, but it might reveal one. 

Also, I know that I personally projected my insecurities onto men who never cheated on me, which is unfair on a whole other level.

What's the real reason for all that rage?

Interestingly enough, the rage that I often felt was really just self-preservation. If I was angry at men for being “shallow” and “disgusting” then I didn’t have to deal with my own feelings of inferiority.  If I was annoyed with other women for having the audacity to be comfortable in their own bodies, then I didn’t have to deal with more uncomfortable feelings like the insecurity that was eating away at me.

If I was angry then I wasn’t physically hurting myself. 

It was only when I leaned into the sadness and unworthiness that I reached for sharp objects.

See, while I would get pissed at men because of my jealousy, I also noticed something else. My knee-jerk reaction was always to cover myself up. In those moments it didn’t matter how much I loved or was attracted to my partner. I felt like I never wanted to have sex again. I never wanted to be seen naked. I wanted to break up with the guy and go live celibate in some mountain cave where no one could ever witness my hideous appearance ever again.

Why?

Figuring that out was pivotal to helping me heal.

A lot of it is directly tied to my perfectionism issues, but that’s an article for another day. What’s important here is that it was never about the men or their sex drives or what they found visually appealing. And it was never really about the other women. 

Here's a helpful metaphor for jealousy and insecurity.

Let’s say you have a car that you really love. It’s a gorgeous color with a solid paint job. It has comfortable seats that warm up in the winter. They even have the option of giving you a back massage! It’s reliable and modern. It’s got fun technology and fantastic safety features. It’s a great car!

Or maybe you've got a car that's not in perfect condition, but it's been through some shit with you and you're quite fond of it. You've had opportunities to upgrade, but you've decided to hold on to it, because it keeps you happy enough.

In either of those scenarios, if someone else pulls up next to you in a different-but-equally-awesome car, you’re probably not fazed. Even if it’s a different color or style, you don’t feel anything negative toward the car or the owner of the car. If you even notice it, you’re just like cool car and move on with your life. 

Why? Because you love your car and the fact that other great cars exist has no affect on you.

But what if you don’t have a car? Or what if the vehicle you do have is faded or it’s a color you don’t like or it’s always breaking down or the AC doesn’t work… 

In that case, when a person pulls up next to you in a nice, fancy, shiny car, it just might annoy you. And if you happen to be broken down on the side of the road and some expensive car goes zooming past you, you just might hate that motherfucker for a minute. 

Now, why is that?

It’s not because of what someone else has. It’s because of what you feel like you don’t have. 

If that other person suddenly didn’t have their shiny cool car, would it actually improve your life at all? Nope. But if you went from a shitty car to a really nice one, that’s a game-changer.

Jealousy is a light shining down, illuminating what you feel like you don’t have. 

Sometimes it feels easier to take away or destroy someone else’s nice car than to take the time to fix-up your own or find a way to buy a nicer one for yourself. You don’t want them to drive around reminding you of what you don’t have. But is that really fair to either of you?

Plot twist - it's not a competition.

When I was getting jealous, it was because I automatically saw myself as inferior.

If this woman is sexy and she has a double-D’s and I only have a B-cup, then I must not be as sexy as she is. If this woman is beautiful and tall, but I am short, then I must not be beautiful. If she is stunning with her golden skin and full lips, and I am pale as a fucking marshmallow in a snowstorm with average lips, then I must not be attractive at all.

These women were not doing anything wrong by existing and showing off their beauty. I wanted them to cover up. I wanted them to hunch over, to not brush their hair, to have a flesh-eating disease or something. I wanted them to make it easier for me to be attractive by comparison.

Aha! But that’s the thing, isn’t it? That’s the damn thing. We're not supposed to be comparing ourselves.

It’s not a goddamn competition.

Show me a field full of red tulips and I bet it’s beautiful. But show me a field full of tulips that are red and yellow and pink and orange and white and purple — now that’s a sight to behold. Show me a world full of tulips and roses and sunflowers and daffodils and orchids — well, hot damn I’ve got chills just typing that. 

The variety enhances the beauty.

Do we all have preferences? Of course! And there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s okay to prefer orchids over roses or tulips over sunflowers. But to assume that one is ugly because the other exists is ridiculous.

(Now apply that to humans.)

You know that you have truly healed your jealousy and insecurity when you can look at another woman in all her glory and see her for the beautiful creature she is without negating your own beauty and value.

This may be hard to hear but it’s important. 

It is never about them. It is always about you. Always.

I don’t care if there is a supermodel who strips off her clothes and tries to seduce your husband. The way you feel, that jealousy or anger, is always about you. It's about how you view yourself.

That may seem annoying, but it’s actually empowering. 

No matter the circumstances, you always have the power to feel better and no one can take that from you. Even in an extreme situation like the seductive supermodel, you have the ability to not be threatened. 

Can you feel that? Can you feel that power? You can love yourself so fiercely and see yourself with such unwavering love, that no one can ever make you feel inferior. 

So often we think we have to build a wall around ourselves for protection, but the attacker is already inside the gate. (Ahem, it's you. You are the attacker.)

You don't have to grow a thick skin or build walls to protect yourself. Just learn to love yourself so deeply that no one else, no matter their words or actions, can penetrate past it. 

Easier said than done? That's okay. You're reading posts like this, aren't you? That means some part of yourself already recognizes your value. You love yourself enough to seek healing, and that's a pretty fucking great start.

Self love is the antidote to jealousy and insecurity.

As with most of my posts, this one really comes down to one thing: self love. Overcoming jealousy and insecurity isn’t about your partner changing his or her behavior. It’s not about other women looking or behaving differently to make you feel better.

It’s just about you caring about yourself more and seeing your own value.

It’s about choosing to love yourself the way you’ve always wanted other people to love you, to look at yourself the way you want other people to see you.

I look back on the younger me and see her as she actually was. She was so jealous and insecure, but how ridiculous! Because she was so pretty. She was sexy. Funny. Intelligent. Talented. 

She just didn’t love herself.

But that’s okay, because I love her now and it's enough.

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We understand that physical wounds take time to he We understand that physical wounds take time to heal, but we tend to not see that’s also the case with emotional ones. 

You can still feel tender in an area even as you’re recovering and getting better at handling similar situations.

As a matter of fact, actually FEELING the hurt can be a significant part of the healing, because it means you’re acknowledging it and not *suppressing* it or *numbing* it.

And you’re probably building or rebuilding a new skill. Ask any person who has had to go thru physical therapy and let them tell you what a b!tch it was — but if they didn’t go thru that part of the recovery, they’d never operate in a healthy way again.

So if you have an emotional reaction to something when you thought you were over it, don’t beat yourself up. It doesn’t mean no progress has been made or that you’re starting over… just like a large, sensitive bruise doesn’t mean you that you never had surgery.

You might even have a *scar* there and that’s okay, too. There are a billion stages to healing ♥️ 

#selflovejourney❤️ #selflovetips #selfloveclub #selfhealing #selfhealingjourney
This kid is remembering, not learning… past life This kid is remembering, not learning… past life sh!t 

#reincarnation #souls #pastlives #pastlife #spiritualreels
I was well aware of my anxiety for a long time, bu I was well aware of my anxiety for a long time, but because I had *high-functioning* depression I didn’t have the “regular” symptoms I associated with the condition — so I didn’t even know I had it. Even when a therapist pointed it out to me, I scoffed.

THEN when I finally acknowledged that’s what was going on, I became a little too attached to the label. It became a sort of excuse to not deal with things.

The truth was that I didn’t want help. Or rather, I *did* want to feel better but it just felt too overwhelming and exhausting to try, to put the effort into it. I didn’t want to do the work because I didn’t have the ENERGY... and since I believe in reincarnation and the afterlife, I knew my soul would be fine (whereas I used to be afraid of d(e)ath) I just wanted to give up on this life. 

I tell you all this because it’s important to know that just because you’ve found yourself on a spiritual path doesn’t mean you’re going to magically be cured of your struggles. It means you have the tools to heal and progress — but tools are useless without a person to operate them.

The problem is you may not have the energy to swing a hammer or even raise a paintbrush. That’s okay. Start smaller, even if it’s something like scrolling Pinterest for interior decorating ideas.

This analogy may be getting a little out of control. What I’m getting at is that even when you don’t feel like applying any of this shit, keep surrounding yourself with good vibes. Read the books, watch the uplifting videos… surround yourself with people and content that spark something in your soul. Don’t give up, even if you need to pause and rest. The inspiration will come. 

#anxietyproblems #selflovetips #selflovejourney❤️ #spiritualreels #spiritualjourney #anxietytips
Here are what expert Carol Bowman has dubbed The F Here are what expert Carol Bowman has dubbed The Four Signs in determining whether your kid is remembering a past life or is just making shit up for fun. It should be noted that a child doesn’t have to exhibit ALL 4 signs for the memories to be valid. It could be any combination…

1. Matter-of-fact tone — It’s not just *what* the child is saying. It’s *how* they say it. It’s not something silly that’s just made up on the spot. It’s factual to them. It is said with the same confidence as telling you what their teacher’s name is or that they’re holding a blue cup of chocolate milk. Oftentimes, the kid’s tone and voice will change a bit - as though they are suddenly much older than their actual years. Like the child who said he was once “betrothed.” Kinda creepy, right?

2. Consistency over time — Think about all those criminal shows that teach us how to catch a person who is lying.  For one thing, when a person tells a lie (or a kid is just making up a story) it’s harder to keep the story straight if they have to tell it more than once. With untruths, you are *creating* something, not *remembering* it. So, yeah, if your kids is repeatedly telling you the same story of something that happened in his “old life” it’s probably a real memory. (This doesn’t mean he won’t possibly ADD to the story if he remembers more later.) 

3. Knowledge beyond experience - The internet is full of videos showcasing child prodigies. While every child who recalls a past life won’t be a 2yo concert pianist, it’s not uncommon for a kid to have shocking knowledge or a skill he didn’t learn from his family. And plenty of these cases existed long before iPads and YouTube.

Corresponding behavior and traits — This one kinda overlaps with the last sign, but it also includes things like phobias, strange food preferences, and mannerisms, etc. This may also show up as physical characteristics like a birthmark that corresponds with a fatal wound in the last life or as a birth defect ((like my son who was literally born with his intestines out of his body and had to be rushed into surgery)). Dr. Ian Stevenson did EXTENSIVE research on this particular category.
#reincarnation #pastlives
If you find yourself doing this a lot, here’s yo If you find yourself doing this a lot, here’s your reminder that your needs and wants are just as important as anyone else’s. Slow down, take a moment, do something wild and crazy and selfish like drink your coffee while it’s still hot 😂

#selfcarefirst #selflovetips #souls #souljourney #anxietyproblems
Pause for a moment. You can tell when you’re bei Pause for a moment. You can tell when you’re being pushed by fear and when you’re being inspired by joy.

If you’re panicking that a project won’t turn out perfectly, if you struggle to hear even minor criticism, if you have a meltdown the moment things don’t go as planned… That means more concerned with the outcome than the process. 

And THAT is a sign that you’ve been conditioned to believe you have to *earn* love…that your worth is determined by your accomplishments.

My darling, sweet soul. That is not true.

You don’t have to *do* anything. Nothing. Nada. Zilch.

So if you *do* decide to pursue something, let it be inspired by genuine interest and bliss. It’s hard for us action-based humans to grasp this, but that is the whole point of being here. 

#selfloveclub #recoveringperfectionist #recoveringpeoplepleaser #souls #souljourney #spiritualjourney
Bruh. Being a human is scary sometimes. It’ can Bruh. Being a human is scary sometimes. It’ can be hard not knowing what comes next.
Watching an episode of Modern Family or The Office for the hundredth time is actually a pretty healthy way to deal with those anxious moments.

Meditation has been a  fantastic resource for me (and so is drinking water and getting in a good workout blah blah) but it won’t help you if it’s something you dread, something that feels boring, something that  feels like an obligation… 

BUT did you know that watching a funny show or a comforting movie is its own form of trance and can have similar benefits? You’re allowed to decompress without feeling guilty about it. It doesn’t make you less spiritual to watch Golden Girls. 
It’s actually a great way to raise your vibration ✨ 

#souljourney #spiritualreels #raiseyourvibration #selflovetips #anxietyproblems #anxietytips
This, of course, is not a comprehensive list. It’s not even a full list of all the books on the subject that I or have read. The point being there is *so* much valid material out there on reincarnation, past lives, souls, the afterlife, etc.

You can see a good list of books I recommend on my website (l i n k in b i o) or message/comment if you want to send you the l!nk. 

Feeling overwhelmed? Here are a few of my personal favorites to start with:

Life Before Life by Jim B Tucker, MD

Old Souls by Tom Shroder

Children Who Remember Previous Lives by Dr. Ian Stevenson

Between Death and Life by Dolores Cannon

The Children that Time Forgot by Peter & Mary Harrison 

#reincarnation #souls #souljourney #pastlives #spiritualreels
The real question is does the plant *like* to be t The real question is does the plant *like* to be touched..? Does it feel like affection… or like being tickled… or is this poor plant cringing… Is it recoiling from me?? I need answers 😅😅
Honestly, what the f*ck were we thinking? 😅 #r Honestly, what the f*ck were we thinking? 😅

#reincarnation #souljourney #pastlife #souls #dolorescannon

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